Successfully dealing with temper tantrums is not always easy, especially when you are tired and stressed.
You will never stamp them out. But you can reduce how often and how bad they are.
This is the process for dealing with any toddler tantrum:
There are 2 basic types of toddler tantrum:
The Frustration Tantrum is a result of something the child is doing (or rather failing to do!) himself – trying to do a difficult jigsaw or spilling his drink down his T-shirt.
The Want My Own Way Tantrum happens when he is restrained from doing what he wants by someone else – having a sharp stick taken off him or being strapped into a car seat.
With a Frustration tantrum, the child has nothing to gain - he is purely letting off steam. Follow the tips given below.
With a Want My Own Way tantrum, the toddler wants to do just that: get their own way and regain control. There are various strategies for coping here.
There are various strategies for dealing with temper tantrums of this kind:
Help the child
solve the problem – if appropriate. Put the jigsaw piece in the right
place, get his drink down from the table or sit him in the highchair he
was so valiantly attempting to scale.
Offer a cuddle - this may or may not be accepted. If not, move on and try another tack.
Try to express the toddler’s feelings for her. Saying for example ‘you’re sad about spilling your drink, aren’t you?’ may remove a lot of the frustration caused by not being able to explain the cause of her woes.
These troubles are hugely
important to her, and it feels good to know that you’re taking them
seriously too. This tactic had a very calming effect on my toddler when
his language was in the primitive stage.
Distraction - is a very effective strategy because toddlers have such a short attention span.
It is much easier than you might think to divert their attention from the crying fit.
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If you knew that you could do all three of these things, wouldn't that make your life easier and give you more confidence as a parent?
The best thing is that controlling toddler tantrums is NOT a black art that only the best parents know about.
We can all manage our young children's behaviour, and it's easier than you might think.
Just stay positive, you are doing great.
There are two main reasons that so many parents have trouble with dealing with temper tantrums:
1. They don't understand that not all tantrums are the same - toddler meltdowns fall into 2 types, and it's vital to understand which sort of outburst you have on your hands before you can deal with it.
2. They haven't yet realised that young children are extremely predictable and easily influenced. They don't know how effective a few simple techniques are on this age group.
Remember both you and your toddler are learning.
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