Stay at home moms of toddlers may find the days monotonous yet they are busy with an eternal task and raising the next generation of world influences.
Sometimes when we have a houseful of young children it is very hard to appreciate what we are doing. We face the endless merry go round of nappies, feeding, naps and sleep time battles and this becomes our daily dance. How does a mom keep her vision fresh for what she is doing by staying at home and caring for her own children, while others give their children, through choice or necessity, to be cared for by others in the daylight hours.
The moms who go back to work start the day with a full inbox and, hopefully, walk away with an empty one at the end of the hours in the office. Some will fight court cases, others for the rights of abused children, and others simply serving meals in a restaurant. These are very tangible things, but staying at home with your own children by choice does not necessarily have the same outputs.
While many may diminish the role of stay at home moms staying with her children there is a wave of data showing that no-one can replace a mother in the home, not even an au pair or nanny. There is a quality that a loving dedicated mom brings into the parent child relationship in these early years that none can compete with.
"Children who have been in extended daycare and preschool programs have: poorer work habits, inferior peer relationships, substandard emotional health, lower grades and standardized test scores, and are more difficult to discipline. If the young child develops best at home, then it is the greater loss for him, and ultimately society, if he is sent elsewhere." Raymond & Dorothy Moore, Better Late Than Early
Young woman, fresh out of school, are now expected to head off to college or university for a series of qualifications. This mindset is sold to them from preschool when they are first asked: “What do you want to be when you grow up?”
From then onwards the idea is progressively planted that just being a mommy isn’t good enough. The world says its ok to be a trained au pair or child caregiver, but not ok for you to stay home and be a wonderful mom to your own children. Again it says its ok to be a chef but not cook wholesome nutritious meals for your husband and children. It’s fine by worldly standards to be a schoolteacher to 30 or more students every day, but when you say you want to home school your own offspring it is frowned upon.
I have made my husband, children and home my career for more than 24 years and I am still learning and growing in each of these roles. There were times when we had to turn over each penny twice before spending it, other times when I would long for a job as a librarian (for the peace and quiet!) when my 4 young loud children were especially exuberant! Of course I had my low moments, I am human and selfish at times. However for the mom who has many hours when she feels that homemaking, parenting, feeding little tummies and all the other jobs that go along with young children are pointless let me give you a secret…
A stay at home mom needs to learn about homemaking, food, education and health! Make your home a beautiful place, which does not necessarily mean spending loads of cash on the latest fashionable furniture. Just recently I went into a very humble home, yet this homemaker had made a nest for herself that spoke of love and care and a castle for her husband to come home to that no man would scorn. Every well-worn rug, chair or sofa spoke of her heart of love. Living in the 21st century offers stay at home mothers the wonderful ability to learn online from the wealth of information on the internet available for free, or in paid for courses on everything from cooking real food, to learning to sew, to health and natural remedies for illness.
There is another benefit to the technological age, in that if you have something to offer whether it be typing services, translating books into other languages or a skill like making knitting patterns or how to can surplus foods, you can create a website or blog and share your passions and earn a tidy little income on the side.
From the time your children are small you can bring them alongside you in these learning endeavors. As you learn to bake bread or grow vegetables, they can be your helpers and learn too. A wise dad of 7 children, when asked why he sent his children out in twos to do chores, replied: “It always seems easier when you have some one to talk to while you work!”
As you stay at home moms work in your home, you can sing with your young ones, build their vocabulary, develop their physical strength and grow their characters. Throw in a few crafts a week, some chunks of time spent reading and building motor skills, then by the end of the day you will both have had days where you have learnt a whole lot of skills. Never underestimate your home and everything that it has to offer your family – not just in the toddler years, but also all the way through until you wave them off into their own homes one day.
"Thank God, O women, for the quietude of your home, and that you are queen in it. Men come at eventide to the home; but all day long you are there, beautifying it, sanctifying it, adorning it, blessing it. Better be there than wear a queen's coronet. Better be there than carry the purse of a princess. It may be a very humble home. There may be no carpet on the floor. There may be no pictures on the wall. There may be no silks in the wardrobe; but, by your faith in God, and your cheerful demeanor, you may garniture that place with more splendor than the upholsterer's hand ever kindled."
---Reverend T. DeWitt Talmage, D.D
I hope you are encouraged to simply enjoy life at home with your toddlers!Thank you for reading stay at home moms.
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